While growing up you will learn a lot of htings from your parents, in School, and from friends. But somehow I feel sometimes that the most important topics get skipped. There are so many surprises in life while growing up that force you to make your own experiences. In this Blog Post, I will tell you about 5 things I learned while living alone.
I’ve already been someone who enjoyed having time for myself from time to time, but some things can surprise you by living your life all by yourself.
1. Feeling lonely
Sometimes it feels good to be alone, for me especially after a long working day, i need some space for myself in the evening. This time can be your own quality time to recover your energy by doing something for yourself. But on the other hand, it can feel lonely. The first month of living by yourself can feel lonely, you come home and you can’t tell someone what happened to you throughout your day. There is no one giving you answers, or helping you out when you’re in trouble. But don’t understand me wrong, feeling lonely is not a bad thing. It will help you to listen to yourself and over time you will be able to enjoy this time as well.
2. It’s your time and you decide what to do with it.
After living in an apartment or a house by yourself you will recognize that you can do whatever you want, there’s no husband or parents who tell you what you could do or what you should do. Nobody is blaming you for not doing the cleaning, it is all your responsibility. (that does not mean that I tell you not clean ;))
Nobody tells you what or when to eat in the evening. In the end its your time, and you decide what you are going to do with it.
3. listening to your voice
In my opinion, one of the most postivie aspects of living alone is possibility to listen to your own voice and understand your own emotions. With time, you gain the freedom to decipher the messages conveyed by your inner self, leading to a profound sense of liberation. It might take some time but in my experience living alone made me listen more to my feelings and voice. And with that experience i was able to do more thing i like to do, even if other people tell me it would be wrong.
4. Learn to understand your emotions
Living alone gives you a better understanding of your feelings, somehow it feels like all emotions are amplified. I think this will be for everyone different, but in my case, I got a lot more emotional while living alone. You have more time for yourself and this allows you to let these emotions out and think about them more deeply.
I know living alone is not for everyone, some people will enjoy it more than others. I enjoy living alone, but I don’t want to lie, it can be a hard time while live by yourself.
5. Doing things after work
After a long day getting home mean that you still have with a lot of responsibility, your have to do things at home. And living alone could tend you to not do the work you should do at home. It needs a lot of discipline to do your housework. Nobody is mad at you when you don’t do it. Therefore there is a time when you push it in front of you. And this could go on like that for weeks.
For me, it helped me to have a weekly plan. With this plan, it was easier for me to be disciplined and get my things done, because i knew exactly what kind of homework i need to do while im at home.
Overall living alone can feel relieving and it is a great thing to experience. There will be times when you don’t feel good when there is nobody around you, in times like that it is important to get out and meet your friends or family. If you don’t have both of them you still should go out and try to do something that you enjoy even if it is hard to do so in a lot of times.
Additional Thought: Dinner
I think the most depressing thing about living alone is when you prepare a great meal for dinner and you have to eat it all by yourself. Maybe watching some TV show or Netflix while eating. Eating alone is not the same. For myself, I didn’t enjoy my meals like I would do eating with family or friends